My child becomes violent and aggressive, throws tantrums, or has meltdowns whenever I took the gadgets away from them.
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My child becomes violent and aggressive, throws tantrums, or has meltdowns whenever I took the gadgets away from them.
One of the common problems many parents raise with me during the consultation call is “My child becomes violent and aggressive, throws tantrums, or has meltdowns whenever I took the gadgets away from them.”
Two of the common mistakes I shared are the
1) the primary focus of parents is to correct the behavior.
2) They react to their child’s misbehavior
When you try to correct their behavior, it is like telling them it is their fault.
Although it may be the truth but no one likes to be told that they are wrong.
The moment your child hears “It is my problem”, they immediately shut down.
When you nag and nag and they refuse to put away their devices, you started to take away their devices.
Well, your child is addicted to these gadgets. So it is natural that you wanted to take away the devices.
But wait…
In the tension of yourself and your child and suddenly you came into their space and grab away their devices.
And then, they started to have meltdowns, throw tantrums and even start fighting with you.
Imagine someone go to your house which is your space and start taking away things from your house, what would you do?
I bet you will also feel angry and start to fight against this person.
Hm…. now you got it, why your child would have such reactions.
That’s why you need to respond and not react to your child’s misbehavior.
We all know yelling and screaming doesn’t work and yet we do it again and again.
Screaming and yelling may work for a while and after sometimes it lost its magic.
So there you are.
I have a webinar where I share 20 painful mistakes that Parents Regret Making In Their Child’s Screen Time and How to Avoid Them.
Here are the 20 mistakes.
Today, we cover
Mistake #3: The primary focus is to correct their child’s behavior
Mistake #4: Parents reacted
to their child’s misbehavior
If you are thinking to focus to correct your child’s misbehavior, you could be wrong!
We need to learn to respond to our child’s misbehavior and not react to them.
To learn more, come to my webinar by registering at https://bit.ly/screentimemistakes
I repeat the link. It is https://bit.ly/screentimemistakes
I’ll see you in my webinar.
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